OK….How do we learn from this. I try to analyze exactly what it is I’m disappointed about. Is it something I can change? Is it another person? Is it me?
If it is something I can change , the get busy and make it work. As you know, from previous blogs, I have taken up knitting after many years (and I wasn’t that good at it to begin with.) when my knitting project goes awry I start the whole thing over until I get it right as I just can’t get all the stitches back on the needle correctly if I pull out part of it. ( unlike crocheting where you just pull out the error and continue). Not only does one learn knitting one learns patience….not to mention concentration. I keep telling myself it's not the knitting it's the knitter.If i can't change it there is no point in worrying about it. My Mother always said "A Hundred years from now no one will know the difference". How right she was. Another favorite quote " Don't sweat the small stuff".
If it is someone else things get a little tougher. Did I know, knowing the person, that this might happen. We all have friends who we should accept just the way they are. We know they are , or are not, dependable or whatever, but we love them anyway. Don’t ask them to do things which might disappoint you. Know their limits and your own tolerance. Remember why they are your friend. Be realistic in seeing both the good and the bad, and accept them for who they are.
Now we get to the really tough one. “ME”. How often our disappointment is self-centered, I wanted something. If we take stock of our selves regularly we might find that want we wanted was unrealistic ( a million dollars) or not good for us ( just one more piece of cake won’t hurt). Self analysis is sometimes painful but it is also so rewarding. How can we possibly improve if we don’t know what to work on.
When disappointment comes, and into every life some rain must fall, use it to find ways improve your relationships and to improve your life. We all could stand some improvement. Let the rain bring you flowers.
