On the first of the year, I decided that I no longer wanted to be identified as "that old grieving widower" and began my new 'normal' life, without Terri (but with her looking down and guiding me all the way....she usually was right)
I also adopted a dog, a 6 yr old, 80 lb Husky-Chow-Pit- Shepard that I call Buddy...my buddy. He is well behaved, loves attention (so do I), and is training me well.
I also, recently, was offered the opportunity to be a moderator on the 'death of a spouse' board. I consider this to be an honor and I agreed. I have found, over the past several years, that I really enjoy helping people. This was also Terri's wish, she wanted, when she recovered, to be a volunteer to other cancer patients.
I do have an agenda...to help those in grief, to understand their grief, to help them realize they are not alone, and to, perhaps, show that there is a tunnel, with a light in it, somewhere, and that they are able to return to a new 'normal' life, granted without their loved one, but a life where there is happiness.
A new year, a new beginning along the path of life.

posted by Dancer65
My outlook now is, don't put it off. How lucky for you that you did the traveling and enjoyed each other all those years, treasure your memories, she would have wanted that. I'm also sure she would not have expected you to live in the past, or to join her prematurely. Your family is a good reason to carry on, and the best way to honor her memory.
Good for you to reach out to others who so need to know they are not alone in this dance of life.
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posted by Zeebers
We have seen and experienced the same thing.
I am learning each day, working on my books, laughing more ( thought that would be a lost art) and enjoying the rest of my life.
Blessings!
Zee
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