I’m sitting in the president’s office at Fox Broadcasting to pitch a drama series inspired by Leap! There are four of us trying to sell this project: Goldie Hawn, Marta Kauffman, Nancy Josephson and me.
Goldie, who will act in and produce the series, draws all eyes. True to name, she glows, she sparkles, and makes you want to smile. She’s wearing a strapless, rose-colored summer dress that wafts just below her knees, and a necklace with diamonds so large I think at first they’re fake. The necklace, made of uncut diamonds as big as nickels, is an antique from the Raj period which Goldie bought in India. “I’ve decided to wear my jewelry,” she’d said before the pitch. “What’s the point of it sitting in the box?”
Amen. I’m the oldest of the four women, but all of us have gone through some version of what I call the Narrows. Each is dressed according to character. Nancy Josephson, the agent who conceived of turning Leap! into a TV show and brought us all together, wears Prada from shoulders to toes. Marta Kauffman, the co-creator and exec producer of the monster hit, “Friends,” wears a vintage dress and sneakers with no laces. And me? I’m wearing my best-fitting long black slacks from ABS, and a white t-shirt from Theory. But here’s the embarrassing part: because I have leg “issues,” I’ve got black Hush Puppies on my feet. People pretend not to notice.
Marta lays out the premise for the show that she, Goldie and I have cooked up. It will be an ensemble about two generations: five people in their 50s, who were friends in college and are trying to figure out what they’ll do in the next part of life; and five of their children, who’re in their 20s and trying to figure out what to do with their entire lives. Goldie talks about why she’s passionate about this show, describing how she went through an agonizing empty nest experience, and how her three kids are going through major transitions in their 20s.
The president of Fox, Kevin Reilly, says it’s a great pitch, and he wants to make a bid. He’s buying it in the room. I’m in shock. When I last tried pitching shows seven years ago, I got cold looks and “We’ll get back to you.”
At NBC a few hours later, we make another sale in the room. The next morning, Peter Roth, the smart and witty president of Warner Brothers, which will produce and finance the show, accompanies us to Goldie’s house for a meeting at 9 a.m. with ABC. Steve McPherson, the ABC president, had said that because of his schedule, he’d have to do the meeting in the morning near his house on the West Side. As it happens, Goldie lives nearby and offered her home.
She’s not wearing the diamonds today–which disappoints the other three of us who’ve been fantasizing all night about a shopping trip to India. But Goldie’s home is warm and lush, with brilliant-colored flowers, Tiffany lamps and gorgeous chintz. As we settle into couches, Steve McPherson says, “Goldie Hawn, Marta Kauffman… I say, `Yes.’ What else do we have to talk about?”
Um, do you want to hear the pitch?
Sure, he says, and after we’ve finished, he turns the tables on us. He says he knows we’re going to all the networks and “You’ll have the pick of the litter. So let me tell you why ABC is the best place for this show.”
By noon the following day, the deal is sealed with ABC. Peter Roth calls to give me the news. “You wrote about the narrows?” he says. “This is the wides. I couldn’t be happier.” Usually, if a network likes a pitch, they order a script, and they commission 50 or 60 each season. When the scripts come in, they pick the ones they feel are strongest and shoot about 5 or 6. After watching the finished pilots, they decide which they want and need on the air. BUT, in this case, they’re committing to shoot our pilot script, so we know we have a place in the final round.
NOW… Marta and I have to write it, with Goldie’s input. If it goes on the air, which is always a long shot, I’ll be the oldest female executive producer working in TV.
How sweet it is — the irony. I left Hollywood in 2002 because no network would hire me and my agent fired me. I wrote a book describing ageism in Hollywood, which we’re not supposed to talk about, but I had nothing to lose. And because of the book–and the women who responded to it–I may be coming back. Which I never dreamed of, and which is the message of Leap! itself.
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IN MEMORIAM
Life has a way of giving you the bitter with the sweet. I’ve just learned that my friend, Joel Siegel, whom I knew at Pasteur Junior High in L.A., and who was for 30 years the film critic for “Good Morning, America,” passed away at 64 after a ten-year bout with colon cancer. Joel had been diagnosed shortly after learning his wife was pregnant with their only child, Dylan, now 9. Joel wrote a funny book, “Lessons for Dylan,” lightly packed with all the things he wanted his son to know. I miss Joel terribly. He was warm, kind and generous and lots of fun; the world is dimmer without him. Joel, I raise a glass to you.



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posted by DrPamBrill
In my case, putting psychology to work in the executive coaching/consulting/speaking gigs business where I am trying to replace Dr. Phil with a more compassionate and real-world-experienced Dr. Brill, it's populated by the same old white guys who have been on the podium forever- for ever- Ken Blanchard and Tom Peters who went to school together, Steven Covey, Marshall Goldsmith, and, yes, Dr. Phil.
Heck, I have worked shoulder to shoulder with and for Tom and Marshall, I constantly ask them 'what's the story - how come it's still a bunch of white guys who are aging and still pounding the same old message about how we have to change- and your cast of characters isn't changing?' They, of course, shrug their shoulders, laugh and wonder aloud too why that is- but they're still there! So I, like you, am working on getting into the arena. Your story inspires me to look ahead and keep moving forward toward my vison and dream.
Then there is the empty nest-you are right on about that. 3 of my 4 daughters will be in life-altering paths and leave in just two weeks- oldest, a biomed engineer, leaves for NYU Law to pursue specialty re entertainment and sports intellectual property law (now that sounds fun!); second enters senior year at my alma mater, Smith College with dual major in brain science (my favorite) and economics (her Dad's side of brain) with aspirations to play in the field of investment banking where she did summer internship; third enters BU (o.k., where I earned my Master's) as freshman in their performing arts program (hey, do you all need another female to play one of the daughters- just kidding... taking your lead re asking); fourth remains at home as junior student-athlete in high school with aspirations to attend Dartmouth (also my alma mater for grad work and where I taught at the Med School).
The nest is already feeling empty and it is two weeks until the three oldest leave even though I am rarely here in the nest as I travel to do the work I love. Still, the nest is starting to feel like there is a lot of empty space- or at least there will be. And with that is the challenge and opportunity to redefine who I am- to discard outgrown images, to step into new images- and while it is exciting, it is also scary. And, I must admit, I have already fallen down a few times as i venture into doing and being anew. And you know what, I love those scars- they are as much-loved as the scars on my knees from when I mastered riding a bike and skateboarding as a child- when boards had metal wheels...
We- I - want your show to succeed! So get that show up and running so my Girls and I can have something to talk about in those late night phone calls that mothers share with daughters.
THANK YOU for your amazing story and the images that you painted.
GO WOMEN GO!!!
Looking forward,
Dr. Pam Brill- not Dr. Phil...
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posted by CynthiaC54
Being one of those who started recreating herself about the time the last kids started leaving the nest, I'm very interested in learning from all of y'all who had change thrust upon you. Of course, a big chunk of the humor in recreating myself (to be what I always wanted to be when I grew up -- does this mean I'm there?) has been that the kids, being of the Boomerang Generation, keep coming back! Fortunately, they've all turned out to be really cool grown-ups, which makes it bearable. Anyone else dealing with that yet?
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