I felt I should post something about my views about accepting or declining "friends" here on EONs.
As of this writing, I have 70-something friends; that may or may not seem like a lot to some folks. I would probably have a lot more, but I have "declined" invites, and occasionally have removed some folks from the list. Not because I didn't "like" them, but probably because we never grew to be friends, after the "accept" button was clicked. Especially if we were never in ANY of the same groups together. I may have even hurt someone's feelings, unintentionally, and for that I apoligize.
But, different folks have different reasons why they befriend someone here in Eonsland. My criteria is simple: I "know" someone from a group, have had friendly exchanges thru' messages, replies, and PM's... and I LIKE them or something about them. (Spunk works, even when we have no other commonalities shared... LOL!) At least, I like the "them" I have "met" so far.
I just went to my friends list to scan thru' them all... just to be sure that criteria is in effect. And you know what? YUP... it is. Every single one of those people, I DO know something about each and every one of them, that I LIKE! It's a GRAND feeling and realization, believe me!!
So, to my dear neighbors here on EONs, while I truely do appreciate a "friend invite" every time I see one waiting for me to open, I just do not "accept" friends lightly. (I am the same in the real world, too.) If we belong to no groups together, if we have never communicated before, if I look at your profile and see nothing in common - then I do click "decline" with some hesitation. It is not a rejection to anyone personally, please understand. I just take the word friend a bit more seriously than perhaps it is meant to be on this site.
But... "that's the way (ah-huh, ah-huh) I like it!"
(... and, yes, I am a dork and almost barfed on that last line. LOL!)
HUGS TO YA! - Marty aka Daydreamin
What ARE online FRIENDS to YOU?
posted 11 months ago, updated about 1 month later
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- 1. 11 months ago stx wrote:
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Hey Marty, how ya doin? I couldn't have said it better darlin. My cut off point was 15 friends, which I whittled down to 10, not because I'm socially retarded....wll yes I am, but thats beside the point. I'm having a hell of a time keeping up with the 10. On weekends I deal with 100's of faces, general conversations..boy you guys are a good band...or, I use to play music to.....aaaaaah!!!! Yikes, I lost it there...Luv ya....STX
- 2. 11 months ago azurevirus wrote:
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Internet friends to me..are ppl who have a common cause or hobby or have the same interests as I do or (vice versa)..I haunted big time the chatrooms before they all turned into "junk" and found myself actually liking some of the ppl I met in them..its always cool to wake in the morning and see your friends as they come on line and joke and banter with them over three cups of coffee..I was actually lucky enough to meet a few and it was a little "strange" at first..it all turned out pretty darn good tho ..still keep in contact with them, and I thinks thats pretty cool..ur one lucky person to have as many freinds as you have..enjoy them! :)
- 3. 11 months ago okhela wrote:
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I like your comments and criteria, Marty. Mine are similar. I do have some friends with whom I have some major disagreements but we are able to communicate civilly. That allows the opportunity for both of us to grow.
- 4. 11 months ago johnH56 wrote:
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Marty- Just had to check this blog. It was the Tammy Faye picture that hooked me in. There are times when your sense of humor absolutely kills me. Honor to be among the friends. This old farm boy knows lots of people but calls relatively few "friends" whether on EONs or elsewhere.
- 5. 11 months ago didi1213 wrote:
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marty...goin' to my friends list now...and checking it with your criteria...you never cease to bring the truth up with a giggle...thanks...my friend... :)...didi
- 6. 11 months ago mongomjal wrote:
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Marty, I just had to let you know that I love your home site and blog. Yep I like the people in eonsland. Can't get too serious in my old age. Life is too short. I got maybe 20 good years left and I intend to enjoy it. I plan to go down with a smile on my face. Keep that sense of humor of yours. Mary
- 7. 11 months ago KulBreeze wrote:
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Stumbled into your blog and I could not agree with you more. For me it is all about shared values, not a popularity contest and nothing to do with loneliness. A common sense approach to meeting, greeting and interacting with others, whether online or offline. Thanks for sharing.
- 8. 11 months ago mabel123 wrote:
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I just deleted 3 "friends" because I never hear from them and feel that we don't have much in common. I have some FRIENDS on eons that I really enjoy chatting with and look forward to what they have to say. I'm sure that the folks I deleted are wonderful folks, we just didn't click
- 9. 11 months ago Sila wrote:
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Provocative subject. I too am fascinated with the burgeoning eons 'group dynamics' - a new experience for me as 50+ online user - and one I hope the eons 'powers that be' will explore more behind their firewall curtain - as the psychographic footprint is unique. In fact - I wrote about this some time ago - but more from the POV of having to intuit so much about potential friends online - a blessing and a curse! I think new behaviors around all this are being formed. Bottom line - so far, I am more likely to engage on eons - as it seems de rigeur - than I do in real life. As my grandmother always said: 'If you can count your friends on one hand - you are fortunate!' But that was before computers...!
- 10. 10 months ago acatslady wrote:
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OOpppss. I just invited you, ha ha, before reading this. Got it! We'll just chat whenever...Cheryl