i searched for him and found him four years ago. Progress has been quite slow. He seems not to want to have a relationship with me. I can only say that is his choice. I am tired of him dragging his feet. I finally confronted him on his lack of effort and he did not like what i said. I know he has a lot on his plate but i told him point blank that nothing would change until he started taking care of his life. If he thinks he has a lot on his plate he should look at mine or someone else's. The only way to clear the plate is to deal with what is on it. I make no excuses for him. God does not accept excuses, he wants us to take care of our responsibility. I am not this man's yes woman and i refuse to go along with his lazy style of doing things. FOur years is long enough to decide if you want a relationship or not. It is his choice and he has to live with the consequences of it. I made my choice to confront him on it. He says he is his own man but if he is going to be a minister he had better remember whose he is. He is not his own man and was not intended to be. I refuse to excuse his garbage. Let him deal with the flotsam and jetsam in his life.